Dream Guidance

People often wonder whether their dreams are trying to tell them something.  For me, my dreams are often guidance. I’m not sure if I subconsciously already know deep down what my dream is telling or my body is telling me to wake up and fix this problem I am having.

As an example of my dream guidance, my husband and I have two 60lb black Labradors and they shed and track dirt into the house. It was so difficult to keep my house clean. I am a busy person with a child and I work full time and I am the house handyman with a long list of todos that never seems to go away so I would vacuum downstairs once every 3 weeks.

You can imagine how much dog hair was floating around and how it would just eat at me until I would vacuum. My husband never seemed to notice. This went on for 4 years. Then one night this year right before my birthday I had a dream that I had a Roomba and my floors were always clean and I was living a stress free life. The next morning I woke up and bought myself the best Roomba available and it has been wonderful. It is not perfect but it does just enough to keep the dog hair away and keep the wood floors clean. I can focus on other stresses in my life.

This isn’t the first time my dreams have helped me. In college, I was a starving student and wasn’t eating enough meat. I started dreaming about eating hamburgers. This would happen anytime I wasn’t eating enough meat. I would usually go and get myself a hamburger and the dreams stopped. Years later when I could afford to get my yearly blood work, I found out that I have low iron and it seemed that when my iron levels were really low, I dreamt about hamburgers. I always found this interesting cause it still happens today.

My most telling dream was a recurring one I had about my Dad. In 1994 when I was in college, my parents got divorced. I was happy for my Mom as my Dad was an asshole and he was cheating on her. I found pictures and gave them to my Mom and told her it was time to get divorced. He has someone else and would leave her alone.

In 1995, my Dad came to visit me st school with his girlfriend, the one he cheated with. I am still conflicted about how I feel about this woman. On one hand she slept with a married man but one the other hand my Mom was able to finally divorce my Dad.

Anyway, our meet and greet did not go well and my Dad and I argued on the phone afterwards. He said “you are a bitch just like your Mother.” I hung up on him and didn’t speak to him for 7 years. He never called to apologize.

I thought I was fine not speaking to him but I kept having recurring dreams where I was fighting with my Dad. Physically fighting him in my dreams and I would wake so angry. It felt so real. This happened every week or two for 7 years. I would dream I was choking him. It was crazy.

I finally realized that I needed to forgive him for the asshole of a father he was. That is a whole other blog. I needed to re-establish a relationship with my Father. Even just a cordial one.

I have not had one of this dreams about my father since  I don’t regret opening the lines of communication again but I don’t think any better of him all these years later  I have just accepted the fact that he was not the best my Father – worse to my brother than to me.

Now don’t get me wrong – a lot of my dreams don’t make sense and I just let them go  some are fears – like losing my daughter or missing a deadline at work  – standard stuff.

one recurring dream I have is that I am being chased and it is dark and I hide somewhere but spend most of the dream running in fear of the person chasing me. I have no idea why I have this dream at least once a month for a sling as I can remember. Sometimes I think it is because my Mom has us watch scary movies as kids and I continued to watch a ton of them as a teenage and adult. I’m not sure but I wake up and my heart is racing like I was actually running. Maybe one day I will figure out this one.

Right now I’m concerned about my current recurring dream. Rather than fighting with my Dad, I’ve been physically fighting my husband in my dream. Almost the exact same way I would fight my Dad in my dreams. It surprised me the first time it happened a few weeks ago.

I wondered if my subconscious is telling me it is time to give up on him and my marriage and get a divorce. Have I finally had enough where my dreams need to give me a clue.  Maybe this time I won’t need 7 years to figure it out.  I’m monitoring the situation and taking my dreams seriously.