Name calling

My husband easily gets frustrated. So when I disagree with him, he sometimes resorts to name calling because he can’t change my mind.

Yesterday, my daughter and I spent the afternoon at the mall while my husband napped. On the way home my husband called me while I was driving. It was 6:15pm and normally bedtime starts at 6:45-7pm. He said he thought we should go watch a gymnastics invitational from 6:30-7. We would be home by 7:15 and can start bedtime then.

I knew these things take longer than he estimated. I also know that Sophia was tired. I said that it is too late and we can just watch it tomorrow. I said that Sophia needs to go to bed by 7pm latest.

He tried to get me to change my mind and I said the same thing.

He then called me thick headed and not flexible. I said I’m just trying to get Sophia to bed on time. We can watch it tomorrow.

He called me thick headed again.

I told him not to call me that again.

So he called me anal and said that he didn’t call me thick headed. I  again said no. I told him that he could go on his own.

He hung up on me

After he hung up I realized he said this all with my daughter in the back seat. What an asshole.

When I got home he started again making fun of the fact that I was such a stickler for time.

Sophia defended me and said not to disagree with Mommy.  He actually justified his name calling.

I told Shawn the following. There is no reason to insult me or call me names and especially not in front of Sophia. You trying to justify why you did it is even worse.

I am not overreacting. I’ve told you before it is not okay. If you do it over the phone, I will hang up on you. If you do it in person I will leave the conversation. Then I will tell Sophia it is not nice to call people names.

I don’t call you names or insult you and especially not in front of Sophia since she understands most things. So think of how you would feel if I did that to you in front of our daughter.

I’m not sure what to do.